Dealing with a break up and having trouble coping it , is a usual reaction . You are not the only person to go through this, trust me , there is no shame attached to breaking up . The first thing I advise you to do after it occurs is to consider best way for you to manage the breakup\ split .
Responses normally fall into two categories :
Self destruction - by letting the breakup tear you apart , this is knee jerk reaction, which you need to get over and move on, I find that friends or family are the best help.
Overcoming it – this way you will become stronger , there is a poem that tells it as it is
“That which does not kill you
Makes you stronger
For the heart is like any other muscle
Without pain there is no gain”….
Your outlook and attitude will decide for you how well you will deal with the breakup .
You will probably never had to face such a demoralizing situation , but you do not have to let it destroy you, keep this verse with you, so that you can look at it when you are feeling down, surviving this will certainly define your future life .
Divorce or the split up of a marriage is always thorny especially if it was because of the infidelity or an affair, you may have doubts about your self esteem . If these feelings are becoming overwhelming then seek counselling to help you cope. This is more than ever true if the breakup came about if any sort of abuse was involved.
If you can not seem to get over your feelings of doubt about your self worth then seek help, “problems shared are problems halved “and until you deal the break up now, it will probably cause problems for a long time .
Positive thinking, when dealing with a break up, must govern your feelings , it is all over now. A friend of mine said, of her ex, when this happened to her “Thank you for not wasting any more of my time…….NEXT! ”, this will help you become stronger . In a few words it demonstrates to you that there is a life to look forward to, learning from the liason will make you a much better person in the next one .
“Thank you for not wasting any more of my time…….NEXT!”, keep repeating this to yourself, there is a new world set out before you you and this time you will survive . Every day is a new day, just focus yourself on the better things in your life and that you have a better life to look forward to. As yourbelief in yourself grows a little bit stronger every day, you will see that “the best is yet to come”, dealing with the past will slowly stop being a problem
Jus think life’s hick-ups need only be overwhelming , if you let them, this break up does not define your life, it is the foundation to build your future from now on.
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